For about two years now, I’ve been in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives 13,875 km away from me, three continents. We see each other maybe once or twice a year. My feelings haven’t changed since and I am really happy about this. Honestly it isn’t always easy but I found a way to get through this difficult time.
In the beginning I thought “why do I put myself in a difficult position like this?” But then I realized I didn’t put myself there, I just fell in love and that’s the most natural thing in life. While we are separated I feel free but still loved.
I’m happy that I can be myself, care about myself and concentrate just on me. Of course I miss him, no question, but you have to make the best out of it. I would say no one, who is in relationship has as much time for their friends than someone who is in long distance relationships.
One day we have to think about our future but hey, I am in my mid twenty’s and there is no reason to face all negative points about a long distance relationship. I want to live in the moment and in the end life happens anyway.
I know everyone says it but it is true, the most important thing is TRUSTING each other!
Every time when we see each other we are travelling around, exploring new places and countries and not to forget we are enjoying every second of being reunited.
It’s great that we can do this because then we make good memories for the next few months and as soon as I get upset about being separated, I will think about the adventures we have experienced together.
In the beginning we tried to Skype every day but we realised very soon that this isn’t the right way to handle the situation. We spent way too much time in front of the computer.
We lost too much time for ourselves, which we could have used for more important things. It was not like it should be, so we found another way. Now we are facetiming every second week, of course we are texting as often as we can but the time difference makes it quite difficult. But we found our times where it is perfect for us to communicate. In my opinion every couple should find their own way because there is no right or false.
The best thing to keep your mind straight is being busy. When you are busy, you can’t think too much about your partner and you are not sad because being upset won’t change the situation. The sadness comes and goes but as soon as I got used to it, it wasn’t as bad anymore. I am doing a lot of sport, because it keeps me busy and healthy and at least I am doing something good for my body. I am also learning a third language.
Even when I am going out with my friends and their partners, I am always happy for them. It’s important that you do something for yourself. It might be sport like I am doing, or cooking, learning some new skills or being creative. Just be yourself, and always make yourself better every day. When you love yourself and you are happy with yourself you will see a long distance relationship isn’t hard.